Safety planning should be the first step when preparing to leave a violent home.
When leaving your partner it is important to prepare certain items you will need. You may prepare copies and keep them with a friend or family member, or keep them in one location so that if you have to leave quickly, they will be all together.
Be on the lookout for…
Animal Abuse. It has been recognized that if someone is abusing an animal, more than likely they are also abusing their family. Sylvia’s Place works with local pet rescue organizations and veterinary clinics to house the family pet while staying in our shelter.
Things to bring with you
- Identification card, Driver’s License
- Birth certificate for you and your children
- Social Security Card for you and your children
- School and vaccination records
- Money , Checkbook and ATM/credit cards
- Keys to house, car and work
- Title, Registration, and Proof of Insurance for any vehicles in your name
- Medications if any
- Government assistance documentation (FIA/WIC/DHS Paperwork)
- Work Permits
- Green card
- Passport(s)
- Divorce paperwork
- Medical records – for all family
- Lease/rental agreement
- House Deed
- Mortgage payment book
- Bank Book
- Insurance papers
- Address book
- Pictures, Personal Jewelry
- Children’s favorite toys and/or blankets
- Items of special sentimental value
Tips as you prepare
- Practice how to get out safely. Choose the doors, windows, elevators, stairwells or fire escapes to leave quickly.
- Keep your purse and car keys easily accessible to leave.
- Tell a neighbor about the violence and ask them to call the police if they hear suspicious noises coming from your house or apartment.
- Teach your children how to use the phone to contact the police and fire department.
- Use a code word or phrase with your children and/or friends so they will know to call the police.
- Avoid arguments in the bathroom, garage, kitchen, near potential weapons or in rooms without access to an outside door.
- Use your judgment and intuition. Try to calm the abuser to protect yourself until you are out of danger.
